5 Ways to Help a Friend or Loved One Overcome with Holiday Stress

The holiday season can be a time of great joy or great sadness.  If you have a friend or loved one who is coping with a job loss, death, serious illness, or financial strife, it can be hard to know how to help.

These tips from the authors of Overcomers Inc: True stories of hope, courage, and inspiration will help.

1. Be sensitive to your loved ones’ limited financial resources. If your brother’s just lost his job, bragging about your holiday ski trip would be cruel.  Instead, suggest low-cost or free holiday gift suggestions so that everyone can participate, even if money is tight. 
2. For the recently widowed or others who are in mourning, don’t avoid mentioning the departed family member. Gently reminisce about favorite family memories.  It’s better to speak of the departed that to carefully avoid all mention of his or name.  Follow the lead of the person in grief.  If the discussion is too difficult, she will change the subject.  Many times, the widow or widower will appreciate the chance to share a memory of the lost loved one.
3. Allow people to have their space, but watch out for isolation.  Stress and grief can be exhausting.  Your friend or family member may not be up to the traditional all day shopping trip or noisy holiday party.  Let her set the pace.  However, if you sense that your loved one is withdrawing from everything, consider stopping by for a quiet visit or a cup of tea.  Loneliness is most acute during the holidays so some extra loving care will be very helpful.
4. Invite your loved one to an uplifting community activity.  Holiday concerts, drives to see colored lights, and religious activities can be a source of connection and enjoyment.  It’s hard to not to smile when you see a child’s joy or a humorous holiday play.  Fun is often in short supply, especially when things are hard.  Strive to bring some joy to your loved one and increase their contact with their community.
5. Be patient and understanding.  Your efforts to bring joy and comfort will be appreciated, even if your hurting loved one can’t express that gratitude right at the moment.  A person dealing with a serious life challenge can be emotionally fragile so be gentle, encouraging, and present.  That understanding is the best possible gift you can provide.

  

 
 

Book Giveaway

I’m very excited to share some information with you about an upcoming book give-away! 

3 of my friends are giving away dozens of inspirational books on Tuesday, October 20, 2009. Those who will receive the books will be randomly selected from the fans of Overcomers, Inc.

Here are a few of the books that will be given away:

• Law of Achievement 
• Message of Hope
• 101 Ways to Get Your Foot in the Door
• The Freedom Formula
• Who Am I to Write a Book
• Conscious Entrepreneurs

….and a few more really good titles. 

All you have to do to have your chance to get the books is join the Overcomers, Inc. facebook page. Overcomers is a group of people who have made it our personal mission to inspire as many people as we can.

Those who are already fans will automatically be eligible.

To join click here http://www.facebook.com/overcomersinc and then click “Become a Fan”. 

The contest ends next Thursday, Oct 22 so don’t delay.

Good Luck!